If you're a beginner, sex can quickly become overwhelming, which is why there's no shame in sticking with easy sex positions for as long as you like. When you aren't trying to contort into trickier positions, you're free to figure out what feels good, what your partner likes, and what to do with your limbs — all important aspects of good sex. Or pain. Instead, Weedmark suggests slowing way down, reading each other's body language, and trying to stay mindful as possible. If you're both new to it that's no problem— you can discover what you like together by experimenting and being open to trying new things. Go easy on yourselves, and don't be afraid to laugh if something "goes wrong," or you can't figure a position out right away.
I wish someone was there to guide me when I lost my virginity. Someone to tell me the best sex positions for beginners and how it would feel the first time. For me, it was a traumatic experience. I was housesitting for a family member and my boyfriend came over. All I remember was the pain and thinking why is sex such a big deal? That was then. Of course, after that experience, you have other sexual experiences.
8 Comfortable Positions for the Most Satisfying Sex of Your Life
But how often do we hear the nitty-gritty of how we can actually better understand our deepest desires and most embarrassing questions? Bustle has enlisted Vanessa Marin, a licensed sex psychotherapist based in San Francisco, to help us out with the details. No gender, sexual orientation, or question is off limits, and all questions remain anonymous. Q: My boyfriend and I recently lost our virginities to each other.
How to: For this position, lie on your back while your partner lies facedown on top of you, and enters you from here. Why it's great: A true classic, missionary is a great go-to sex position. It's simple, and surprisingly versatile—you can make minor changes, like shifting the angle of your legs, to mix things up a bit. How to : Kneel on top of your partner, pushing off your their chest and sliding up and down the thighs. You can relieve some of your weight from his pelvis by leaning back and supporting yourself on his thighs.