We like to think of America as sexually permissive. The median American woman has had three sex partners in her lifetime. The median man has had five. These numbers have remained unchanged for decades: you have to look at people born prior to the s, who came of age before the Sexual Revolution, to find lower numbers. The distribution of promiscuity is skewed to the right: most people have only a few partners, but a few people have a whole lot.
In addition, about 60 per cent of the pre-adolescent boys engage in homosexual activities, and there is an additional group of adult males who avoid overt contacts but who are quite aware of their potentialities for reacting to other males. The social significance of the homosexual is considerably emphasized by the fact that both Jewish and Christian churches have considered this aspect of human sexuality to be abnormal and immoral. Social custom and our AngloAmerican law are sometimes very severe in penalizing one who is discovered to have had homosexual relations. It is, therefore, peculiarly difficult to secure factual data concerning the nature and the extent of the homosexual in Western European or American cultures, and even more difficult to find strictly objective presentations of such data as are available. Until the extent of any type of human behavior is adequately known, it is difficult to assess its significance, either to the individuals who are involved or to society as a whole; and until the extent of the homosexual is known, it is practically impossible to understand its biologic or social origins.
I never thought I would ever in my life write to you, yet here I am. Honest to God, I don't want to fall into stereotypes, but here is the thing: I am a well-educated, mature, Hispanic woman who went through a formal, committed relationship with a white American man. After six years of being kind, patient, and totally comprehensive of my man to react and feel motivated to have sex with me, I could count with my two hands the number of occasions we had sex. I would like to move on and meet another white American guy.